Saturday, October 07, 2006

What Sucks…Billy Vera and The Beaters' “At This Moment”

Yeah, I’ll call out this song from the late 80’s. That's just the way I feel about tunes with subtle hints of domestic abuse.

First, let me take you back…

…It’s 1987, you’re watching the greatest Family Ties ever, Alex P. Keaton and his girlfriend Tracy Pollen are breaking up. And then the song plays…“At This Moment”….

“…What did you think…I would do at this moment?”

It’s an old fashioned, “cry in your drink, cause you’re getting dumped” song that tears your heart apart…until…

…well…until the subtle suggestion of domestic violence creeps in.

Check out the lyrics in question:

Did you think I could hate you, OR RAISE MY HANDS TO YOU?

No, I didn’t think that, until now maybe.

What, are you gonna hit me like you did the last time I tried to leave you? Nice use of a threat during a love song.

Why even suggest a line like that, Ike Turner, if you hadn’t thought about punching your girlfriend at one time or another. And why is this post, written 20 years after the fact, the only one to have a problem with it?

Billy Vera of Billy Vera and the Beaters- aptly named band.


Cyn said...

yeah! i have ALWAYS thought that made an otherwise melodic song really may have took 20 years.. but yet again... you called it!

jane said...

Okay, you can see it that way, as you please.
However, having grown up in the fifties and sixties, going through romances in the seventies and eighties, I don't see these references the same as you.

It was not at all uncommon for men (in particular) to express their disappointment with rage.



it was the way it was and, given the time it was written, the song does not speak of threat to me, but of the lack of desire to harm, and the desire to assure, when the social standard all too often was assumed violence.

I'm a woman. I've been treated with violence and invasion at the hands of men before. Even today, I know that many men (and women) WOULD, indeed, DO, react violently to being dumped.

Simply, the song always brings tears to my eyes because I had a love once, with extreme violent tendencies. He eventually killed himself, rather than hurt me.

Just my feelings. Valid whether you like 'em or not.

Thanks for the space.

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